Hola!

Today I just want to talk about marriage. I was trying to think of an analogy to describe what it means to check in with your partner, and it hit me! Each individual in a marriage is very similar to a plant. You each need your bare essentials like watering and nutrients. You also need to be checked on and made sure that you are nurtured.

We want to give the love that our plant needs, but that may not necessarily be the love that your partner's plant needs. You and your partner have the same goal, you both want to be happy; you want to be watered. Nobody wants to be in a toxic environment or feel unhappy in an essential relationship to your growth. It is important to be transparent with what your plant needs, and what your plant does not thrive in.

My husband and I have been together for nine years. There are things I have let go because I don’t want to wake up with grudges. My grandparents told me to never go to bed angry, that's the key to a healthy and happy relationship. Let things go, because we only have one life to live. We have a choice to not be angry or upset. If you find yourself in a relationship where you feel like your plant is being neglected or poisoned, tell your partner!

Find ways to communicate through problems. If you can figure out how to work that out with your partner and communicate what it is that your plant needs to thrive, you will shine bright like a diamond! I speak from personal experience, I have definitely had my hardships. This is coming from finding my way out of it and finding a way to be able to communicate, not from a toxic perspective, but from a healthy loving place. Let's find a way to make our plants happy and healthy, coexisting in a beautiful garden together. I think none of us want to be alone in our own despair. "If you can't love yourself, how in the world are you going to love someone else?"